Unbelievable! Read on:

Well, sit down and be prepared to be surprised. What you read in this article is not exactly what you were expecting. Although generally you have the idea that things change and people change, there is probably one area in life that does not see very much change. While the whole world is spinning and changing every single day, there is one group of people who are not changing and who have not changed and for the most part, will not change.

Why? Perhaps because they are choosing not to change. Their problems, complaints and everything about them suits them just the way that they are . So they stay stuck in their horrid past with their horrid personalities. Who are these people that refuse to change, even when the entire world, even their world is changing on a consistent and constant basis?

Batterers Do Change; They Usually Get Worse:

Batterers, verbal abusers, people who commit domestic violence against others; these are the people that do not and will not change. Yes, the professionals say that they can change and of course the professionals want them to change, but the pros have no way of guaranteeing any improvement when it comes to batterers changing for the better.

A batterer, someone who physically or verbally abuses someone does not change just because he becomes disabled or old, or ill.

And that is where society does not recognize what is in front of them. Picture this:

* People in wheelchairs
* disabled people
* old people
* people on crutches
* people on oxygen
* people with MS
* people with MD
* people with terminal illness
* depressed people
* mentally ill people


Any and all of those listed above have the capacity and capability of being verbally abusive and batterers.

That means that perhaps a man was a ruthless batterer, a physical batterer, a rapist, a mugger, etc, and eventually that man becomes old and helpless. In this scenario, the batterer gets old. That means his physical body becomes old and helpless but that batterer's mind is still intact and still fully capable of being nasty to people, of insulting people, of being verbally abusive to people. Only now, that ruthless, horrible person becomes the subject of sympathy. Yes, sympathy from those around him who feel that the poor man is in a horrible condition.

Do You See A Helpless Individual?

Sympathy from those that look at him and see nothing but a helpless man.Yet, what is this man really like? What is inside his heart and inside his personality? It is very rare that a batterer becomes cured, healed or changed. That is the way that life is. Seems almost every batterer can get temporary healing but most of them still remain batterers even unto old age, even through terminal illness and even through storms of life.The next time that you see someone in that bad physical condition, do not feel sorry for the person SOLELY on the basis that the person is in bad health. Do not assume the person was leading a good life or was respectful of humans just because you see the person is helpless.
What I am saying is that hospital beds do not make saints of people who were previously muggers, batterers and or criminals before they wound up in the hospital bed. What I am saying is that you should not judge nor feel sympathy for someone due to his or her physical health, condition or disability.

The Following Short Story is About an ACTIVELY Abusive Man Who Happens To Have Cancer:

Recently I saw a man become verbally aggressive and abusive to his wife. They were both in the hospital. The man was the patient and the wife was the visitor. This man was overly verbally abusive. He began following her around in the unit. Funny, he was terminally ill, yet he found the strength to follow his wife, and badger his wife , moment after moment. He just would not let her be or leave her alone. He continued to verbally berate her. This man raised his voice, badgered this woman, would not leave this woman alone, followed her whenever she left the room, yet he was crying that he was in pain. Does a person in pain have a right to be verbally, emotionally and physically abusive to anyone? NO! No one has the right to be abusive to anyone and that includes people who are terminally ill. Yes that is correct. Terminally-ill, handicapped and seniors have no special rights that give them the right to badger, annoy and abuse anyone. Yet most hospital staff members just ignored this man's verbal abuse just because they knew he had cancer. I say, the next time you see an abusive person, no matter what the person's health or condition, let the staff know that the patient is abusing you and ask them to make him stop abusing you and see what their reaction is. First notify the patient that he is being abusive! Now, now you are making progress.

Ahh, this poor man! So you think. I felt sorry for the wife, because anyone with any common sense and or anyone with any ounce of experience in domestic violence prevention would have known that this man was a full-scale batterer, except his illness put him just a little bit out of shape. Ahh , that poor woman. She had come to visit him every single day and spent hours and hours there by his side, helping him in every way that she could help him. And there he was verbally battering her. Berating her as he did in his past, berating her as he always did. His terminal illness did not stop him from being himself , so his verbal abuse just kept on shining throughout the hospital.

Staff Needs To Recognize Abuse in Hospital and Nursing Home Situations:

Yet, the staff did not even recognize it for what it was. The staff just saw this as a poor ill man, a poor terminally ill man who was going to die. Ahh, poor him. Truth is that he was killing her. He was killing her with his words, with his attitude, with his personality and he was killing her by making her submit to his style of domestic violence. The man that I am speaking about had cancer. Yet his stage of cancer was where he was still able to follow the woman throughout the halls of the hospital. He was there for chemo-therapy. Wow. What energy he had; if you heard how he berated her, you would think he was not physically ill at all. The wife did not even seem aware that he was verbally abusing her. The staff either was unaware of what verbal abuse was or they felt sorry for this verbal abuser who was there for cancer treatments. What a world this is where a batterer can continue to abuse someone inside a hospital and have not one staff member state to the batterer that he should stop being verbally abusive.